I think...
There's this idea that by the time we hit our thirties, we should have our lives all sorted out.
We're always feeling like we need to live up to other people's expectations, hitting certain milestones at specific times. Society makes us believe that success means following a set path in a particular order.
Once we turn 30, these pressures get even stronger, making us doubt if we're on the right track and comparing ourselves to others.
For me, my change of thinking began on New Year's Eve 2021.
I celebrated the New Year with my boyfriend at the time and 2 couple friends.
Back then I was 28 years old. From the outside, everything looked great.
We threw a 60s costume party and had a great time with drinks and board games.
I should have been grateful for a wonderful last year.
But when I got home, I just felt empty.
When I realized that my 30th birthday was coming up in 2 years, I suddenly felt panicked that I hadn't reached any of the "milestones" that society expects of me.
I compared myself to our group of friends and realized that most of them had already started with engagements, promotions and property purchases.
Some of my friends were already pregnant at the time.
I suddenly started to feel this inner pressure inside me.
At the thought that I would soon have to "take this path" in order to belong and because it was expected of me.
I reflected on my situation and tried to imagine my life in the next 5 years with all these things.
My euphoria level was at 0. The life that others aspired to was not the life I wanted to live.
From the outside, I was also leading a really good life at the time. I had a 5-year relationship, a cute dog, my own brand as an event manager, a nice apartment and my dream car.
Nevertheless, I couldn't cope with the social pressure and expectations. It felt like what I had built for myself at the time wasn't enough.
The question: "Do I even want all these things in my life?"
It made me think. I didn't know what I wanted at the time, but I knew it wasn't the conventional path I wanted to choose.
The panic made me self-reflect. I suddenly questioned everything in my life. Personal development has been with me since I was 18 years old, so I decided to take a closer look at the subject to understand more deeply what I actually wanted.
Through my inner work, I first recognized my values of freedom, self-determination and fulfillment.
I realized that I have not been able to live out these values in my life, in my environment, in my situation and that it will not be the case in the future if I make decisions based on the expectations of others.
I knew the time had come to make a big decision and make a change in my life.
A year later, I turned my entire life upside down.
I broke up with my long-term partner, I gave up my home, my business, my car. I arranged for my dog to have a temporary home with my grandma in Poland and left my old life behind.
A new and exciting chapter has begun: I traveled the world as a solo traveler for 1,5 year.
I've traveled to 20 different countries, got to know new energy, inspirations, thought processes and people.
This time changed my world of thought, my perspective on life and me as a person.
I understood that everything depends on who we choose to be.
I learned that above all, I needed to change my mindset and the story I was telling myself. By learning to control my thoughts and take time for my personal development, I was able to build a life that felt good from the inside as well as from the outside.
I have done these 3 important things: I have recognized, I have accepted and I took action.
2 years later, I turned 30. I have never felt so happy in my life, despite the socially "unachieved milestones".
I now create and live my life according to my own terms.
My mission became clear: to lead other women to their highest potential. Now I want to help them to build a life they love at thirty, free from societal expectations.
My goal is to support women in shaping their next chapter at 30 in a way that feels confident and meaningful for them. They will learn how to build a life that they love at thirdy.
It's exciting to be part of the transformation as my clients turn a stuck, lost existence with a lot limiting beliefs into a powerful, fulfilling and joyful life.
Girl, my promise to you.
You have the power to heal from your past, embrace your worth, and create a life beyond your wildest dreams. I'm here to guide you every step of the way.